Thursday, March 24, 2011

Becoming Charlotte Brontë

Well, who are you? (Who are you? who, who, who, who?)
I really wanna know (Who are you? Who, who, who, who?)
Tell me, who are you? (Who are you? Who, who, who, who?)
'Cause I really wanna know (Who are you, who, who, who, who?)
The Who
LIAM JOSEPH MCNIFF-NIKOL-HE KNOWS WHO HE IS
We recently finished a book in our "Page Turners" Book  Club at Hillside Library. Its title Becoming Jane Eyre.  A story of the writing Brontë family.  In case you don't know them or need a refresher, the writing Brontë sisters, are Charlotte, Emily and Anne.  Two older sisters died at 11 and 10 before they could make a mark.   And there-was a drunken brother who had to be retrieved from pubs rather consistently. Charlotte's novel Jane Eyre was published in 1847.
The author Sheila Kohler imagines a tale of Charlotte writing Jane Eyre
.http://www.nytimes.com/2009/12/27/books/review/Benfey-t.html
We see how Charlotte imbues Jane with  her own qualities, sorrows, and dreams.  Many of Jane Eyre's famous characters are very similar to the real people in Charlotte's own life- a short one-1816-1858, but still longer than all of her five siblings.  A current movie, one of many made over the years has just been released. So Jane/Charlotte is out in public again. See review if you like
http://movies.nytimes.com/2011/03/11/movies/jane-eyre-starring-mia-wasikowska-review.html
And is Jane, Charlotte herself? This Becoming Jane Eyre novel is not huge, passionate and illuminating, but has merit for the questions it poses about the autobiographical nature of Jane Eyre.   I liked the novel not so much for its content as for the imaginings released in me-this family of women writers in a man's publishing world in the mid 1840's. March after all is women's history month.
Apparently, Patrick Brontë was not born with that surname.  He wanted to marry up and believed to do so he would have to hide his ancestry.   He changed his Irish last name from Prunty to Brontë.  He was ashamed of his Irishness and fearful that his heritage would hold him back. So Patrick Prunty became Patrick Brontë, married Maria Branwell- a marriage that came with a dowry and a position.

Why do I care?  We have many Pruntys on my mother Ruth's side.  Her mother Rose was a Prunty.  Rose had six sisters, so there were many Prunty aunts as well.  Then there were two Prunty uncles who disappeared.  Seems no one cared enough to retrieve either of them from anywhere.
Ruth had always said that folks thought the  Prunty name to be English but it was not-just that many Irish had to work in England, some never returning and thus the name commonly thought to be English.  And now I have discovered that this exotic Brontë surname evolved from Prunty.
Charlotte Brontë  is becoming Charlotte Prunty.
I am also thinking about Charlotte's "fictional self" Jane Eyre.   Isn't Eyre, really like Eire, the Gaelic name for Ireland? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/%C3%89ire
Was Charlotte giving a shoutout to her heritage?

My mother, Ruth, was toying with naming me Charlotte. It was Carol or Charlotte for my father, Charles.  She chose Carol.  If grandmother Rose and mother Ruth had kept the Prunty surname going I could have been Charlotte Prunty.  I am well on my way to Becoming Charlotte Brontë

Am I related to the Brontë/Pruntys?  Is this LiamLicks blog, my Jane Eyre?  I downloaded Jane Eyre to my Kindle-old books are free- I want to see If I feel a psychic connection. 

This is the type of story I miss sharing with my mother.  The duality of her nature-Ruth/Ruthless always made for interesting exchanges.  Would she be Ruth and be excited and flattered to be a possible descendant of a famous female writing family? Ruth, a talented writer herself,  possessing a quirky independence, a unique worldview far ahead of her time. Or would she be Ruthless and say something like "Come on Carol, who cares about the past, all these people are dead anyway. the desolate moors, orphans, true love,  Oh please."
LIAM ON THE DESOLATE WINTER BACKYARD MOOR-LOOKING FOR JANE
Today March 24, is the one year anniversary of my mother's death.  She often reminded me that she did not want a big commemoration of her death, or a party to celebrate her life  The way she put it "Please don't do a Carol McNiff  thing when I am gone."  I think she envisioned a raucous party of toasting people spontaneously composing limericks and the like.  (Note to self-sounds like a good sendoff-put in my will)
Okay, I didn't have any public gathering.   But now that I am becoming Charlotte Brontë -what would a writer do?
I know.
Writers acknowledge, mention, prologue, footnote, dedicate
So no party, no service, but here is what I will do today-
RUTH CIRCA 1939
I dedicate this week's LiamLicks to you, Mom, on this one year anniversary of your death.  Liam sends his licks and love.
BTW, I asked Liam about being a Brontë.  He feels that he has enough names- Liam Joseph McNiff-Nikol.  So he'll stick with those four.

Woof, Woof

Thursday, March 17, 2011

A Flameless Fire sign

Bruce Springsteen -Fire

I'm driving in my car, I turn on the radio
I'm pulling you close, you just say no
You say you don't like it, but girl I know you're a liar
'Cause when we kiss, 
hmmmm, Fire

LIAM IN FRONT OF HIS FIREPLACE
I love a roaring fire, candles, a lot of them. I have been a fan of the Christmas Yule log on WPIX since it was a grainy loop in the late 1960's.  I am mesmerized  by every tribal council on the reality TV show Survivor.  Torches all over.  It seems there is a crackling fireplace in every home on All My Children -yes, the soap with Erica Kane/Susan Lucci. http://abc.go.com/shows/all-my-children

Am I a retiree sitting at home watching Soaps?  No. I leave home to watch them.   I get my guilty pleasure while at the Gym watching the flat screen TVs while I work out.  I feel it is then acceptable.
No flame for us here at home.  No candles.  No fireplace.  I live with a spouse who fears the danger of an errant lick of a flame, a candle not snuffed when leaving, the pollution of a fireplace. An article recently appeared in the NYTimes about the the unhealthiness of fireplaces.
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/20/garden/20fire.html?_r=1&ref=todayspaper

And then we have the cautionary warning from our firefighter brother -in-law who has said that many fires he has fought have been the result of a single candle encouraged to lash out by the wind,  fireplace embers simmering unguarded, and sparking unexpectedly, innocent votive lights illuminating a home shrine.  What is a "fire" sign to do? We have flameless candles,
SOME OF OUR FLAMELESS CANDLES
watch TV for fireplaces, fires, flaming torches. Climb into the scene.  Liam has his spot in front of the heating vent.
HEAT WITH A FLAME
I have the WPIX Yule log whenever I want due to modern technology.
I can watch the reality TV show Survivor each week and wait for Tribal Council to see all the torches.  Flames waving in the tropical winds.  Torches licking the air.   Mass of united little fires.

Every house for sale on HGTV has at least one fireplace.   And twice a year we go to The Beekman Arms  (the oldest Inn in America) http://www.beekmandelamaterinn.com/and enjoy a respite in front of their fireplace which is a grand one! 
BEEKMAN ARMS LOBBY
And the Hillside Library has its own fireplace.   After Yoga or a book club meeting, I stop by and warm up amidst the rows of books and live dangerously by sinking into one of their comfy couches and am hypnotized by the flame.
HILLSIDE LIBRARY
Liam enjoying his own flameless fire, no competition from me
AAH, FIRE!
Woof, Woof



Thursday, March 10, 2011

Bromance at Home

And tell me, who do you love?
Who do you love?
Who do you love?
Who do you love?
Who do you love?
1956-Ellas McDaniel by Bo Didley
LIAM WITH HIS TEDDY FRIEND-JUST PALS NO BROMANCE
Bromance seems like a new term, charmingly applied to the relationship between the male leads of the film, The King's Speech- Colin Firth and Geoffrey Rush.
A friendship between two men defined. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bromance    
Not so new, though.   In this link is a quote attributed to that philosopher, teacher, smart person -Aristotle. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aristotle%27s
In 300 B.C. he wrote:
"It is those who desire the good of their friends for the friends' sake that are most truly friends, because each loves the other for what he is, and not for any incidental quality."

So we have Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid, Sherlocke Holmes and Watson, Matt Damon and Ben Affleck, George Clooney and every guy and Paul and Liam.  Liam and I are alone together (you get what I mean, love oxymorons) a lot of the time.  Liam is always where I am. Upstairs, downstairs, couch, chair, yard.   However, when the three of us are in the house, it becomes the pack of the two boys.
The pack of two sit on the couch
PACK OF TWO
watch sports and generally wish me gone. If I attempt to join in Liam taps Paul with his paw
LIAM'S PAW TAPPING PAUL
"That woman is here"
I understand exactly how Helena Bonham Carter felt in the filming of "The King's Speech."   She took a back seat to the Colin/Geoffrey bromance.  In a very mature and loving way, she acknowledged that their bromance enhanced the film, their collective experience as a threesome as well as ours as an audience.  The  interview on Piers Morgan's show has a clip of the two men showing obvious affection and respect
I will take Helena's cue, and support the pack of two bromance at home.
How can I be anything but supportive of such a time honored tradition?

Liam and Paul
MUST BE THE METS-NO SMILES

Woof, Woof

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Where Does Liam Sleep?

SLEEPING DOG
A question came up at dinner recently.  Where does Liam sleep?  As we looked at the questioner, Paul's brother,  we realized he was sitting in one of Liam's favorite sleeping spots.  Before he and our sister-in-law  arrived, we had converted Liam's lair back to a guest chair, by moving his bed from the chair. Add dog and the guest chair (my favorite spot also) returns to Liam's bed after the evening festivities.
DOG IN GUEST CHAIR
The beds of Liam vary according to time of day, and where his parents are.  the living room couch can be a bed , the plaid towel upper left is his perch for watching squirrels
DOG IN A BALL

DOG WITH PILLOWS AND BLANKETS

GEORGIA DAWG
as can the love seat and the den couch where I sleep, facing either way and always on or covered by his favorite blankets





or the upstairs bed where Paul sleeps
or the upstairs lounger used when I am on the computer

DOG ON UPSTAIRS BED

DOG UNDER A CROW WHEN I AM ON PC


HOT DOG IN FRONT OF HOT AIR VENT





and possibly Liam's favorite spot-in front of the hot air vent-good for a few winks especially during those luxurious moments when the first blasts of heat are shooting forth.


Woof, Woof




Thursday, February 24, 2011

Appalling Apostrophe

Definition
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Apostrophe
A flying comma?  An eyelash   One half of a quote, A small right side parenthesis? Bottom half of a semi colon?  A very misunderstood little wisp of punctuation that unleashes passionate opinions in the writing world.
IS THAT AN APOSTROPHE ON THE LEFT? NO, A SUN ARROW

The ads started the week before the weekend of it.  The weekend and the day when we now celebrate two presidents. They would be Washington and Lincoln.  And what they share in addition to a mandated birthday is that nemesis of all punctuation, misused, misunderstood and debated, the apostrophe.
I know I whine about it every year. Thing is, I still do not know the correct answer.about its use for this Presidential celebration.
  
Here is the online ad I received from CVS : Carol, Presidents' Week Savings! Up To $20 Off.  http://www.cvs.com/CVSApp/user/home/home.jsp the apostrophe is after the word Presidents.
and from Macy's- no Apostrophe- Presidents Day Sale: 
extra 15% off petite  looks + Free Shipping!
http://www.macys.com/
and at Eddie Bauer, apostrophe before the "s"
at Edie Bauer www.eddiebauer.  President's Day Clearance! Four Days Only.


Googling shows a lot of variation and justifiable explanations for using the apostrophe before the "s"  and after, as well as just forgetting the apostrophe.
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Where_is_the_apostrophe_in_presidents_day

and my research has added to my knowledge in an unexpected way- we had two names ending in "s" in my nuclear family, Charles, and Lois.

I always thought that the possessive of a Proper name ending in s was like this  Charles' car, Lois' home.  No,
Charles's car, Lois's home.  per this website http://www.davis.k12.ut.us/ffjh/thompson/apostro/nrules.htm

The way I see it now, for me the best way out of all this is the car of Charles, The home of Lois and the day on which we celebrate the birthdays of Lincoln and Washington. Those Presidents of the United States.
IS THAT AN APOSTROPHE TO THE LEFT? NO A SUN DOT
THAT'S LIKE IT! TO THE LEFT OF MY FOOT
That is why the blog is Liamlicks.   Avoiding the problem of  Liam's Licks. or Licks of Liam.
Actually if we eliminated the use of the apostrophe or the apostrophe's use, we all would still get what the writer is saying.   There are groups advocating just that.
ANY APOSTROPHES NEXT DOOR?
RUNNING
Liam just wants the discussion to end and runs and hides

AND HIDING

   Woof Woof

Thursday, February 17, 2011

GoDaddy girl

MOMMY CAROL, A GO DADDY GIRL?
I had to rent a car.   Sawyer was under the weather with a non-weather related injury.  Yes, Sawyer was injured on a sunny, dry, bitterly cold day- 1/24/11- no precip-distinguished by being the coldest day of the winter so far.
SAWYER- MUCH WORSE THAN IT LOOKS
The number 24 is so big in my life that I should always be on alert when that day of the month rolls around.

I bring Sawyer in to Nuzzi Collision, say goodbye and walk down to Enterprise. Yes, I know their motto is "We pick you up" and they wanted to but since it is only a short walk I thought it would take longer for them to come than for me to walk.  By the time my driver would cross Jericho Turnpike, wait for lights and attempt to see around blackened snow mountains, I would be there. 

I arrive- a quick 4 minute walk. I had told them my car is a Ford Focus and my previous car was a Saturn so that they would get the proper idea of me as a driver.  I am led out to the snow rimmed lot and shown my car, a Mazda, a sort of light midnight blue color- an oxymoronic description,   http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oxymoron   I know, light seeming contradictory to midnight?-but a light midnight blue is what it is
A LIGHT MIDNIGHT BLUE MAZDA RENTAL
I am informed of the scratches and assured they are recorded and will not be attributed to me.  I sign a million places, full name, initials. Thankfully, the Enterprise agent leaves to return to the office. I feared that if he watched me drive off, I would be self-conscious, lose my nerve, crash into something on the way out. Okay, I have my rental car. It is the right size. I get in; have a wee bit of trouble with the shift as it requires hard aggressive pulling to change gears and I have to go from left to right and back. See pic following
THE SHIFT AREA
The control panel looks like something an astronaut might have to master.  I locate the radio, the heat and the side mirror controls. That is all I need.  I step on the gas and pull out of the lot to the street.  As I pick up speed, a noise erupts.   It builds fast and becomes so loud it is as if a jet plane is riding with me.  As I slow down for a stop sign,  it goes away.  Encouraged, I start up again. It is back.  I look at the cars to my left and right. Do they hear my big noise?  I am mortified.   Make it stop.  How?  Is the car going to blow up?

I know I have to return to Enterprise. There is no driver's manual in the car.  
It is a 2010 Mazda 3. It says so on the key-a 2010 car should not have problems yet.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mazda3  There is a lit up "M" on the dashboard, I assume its purpose  is to proclaim its Mazdaness.   
THE GLOWING 'M'
Mazda, I think you should not be so proud of yourself -flashing your big "M"

After a high anxiety trip back to the rental office, fearing an explosion all the way (yes, I know- why did I stay in the car). I reenter the Enterprise office. By this time, I have tears in my eyes as I believe I have just beaten death. I explain the issue to the agent who immediately says, "I know what it is."  We go out to the car.  He explains that My Mazda is a sports car.  That the shift is made for those who like the feel of the stick shift and the feel of controlling the car.  It is meant to be a "hard" shift.   There are two drive settings. The right is regular drive, shown by the "D" see next pic
THE CORRECT DRIVE
the left is manual drive, shown by the "M"  Oh the "M" is not for Mazda-it is for manual. 
I ask him if I look like a sporty gal, thinking of the "Go Daddy.com ads from the Super Bowl.  http://videos.godaddy.com/girls.aspx  
DANICA PATRICK-GO DADDY GIRL
He laughs. "I should have told you." "You mean if I just put the shift to the right all will be okay?" He says, "Yes." 
You may be wondering how I am going to work my beloved Liam into this blog story.  Well, here is the LiamLink.  Two years ago, I bought the LiamLicks domain name from GoDaddy.com. Yes, we own it.  Never developed it, just pay the yearly ownership fee of $11.99.  In my fantasy, I am a Go Daddy girl representing Liam.  Someday there might be a LiamLicks.com website.  I believe that the Enterprise agent saw that Go Daddy girl in me when he gave me this sporty Mazda coupe. 
And I did adjust.  I got to like its ride and look.

This experience has shown me I can be a sports car type, a Go Daddy Girl.
I'LL WAIT FOR SAWYER TO COME HOME
Liam says he'll wait for Sawyer to return from the hospital for his next ride.  Woof, woof

Thursday, February 10, 2011

She Loves You

       -------The Beatles
She loves you, yeah, yeah, yeah
She loves you, yeah, yeah, yeah
GOT MILK?  LIAM WITH SOME SNOW FROSTING
She loves you, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah
She would be me.
and you would be Liam.

I now deeply understand the feelings expressed by the author, Caroline Knapp
in her book:
"Pack of Two 
The Intricate-Bond Between People and Dogs"
MY COPY OF "PACK OF TWO"
I did not "get" a lot of what she talked about before I adopted Liam.  I have had the book for many years. It was published in 1999, I bought it soon after and adopted Liam in 2008.  I am a fan of all Ms. Knapp's books, her writing- elegant, honest, and funny with astute observations and brave and sad revelations.
But here I am rereading her book a decade later, knowing its truth for me now.
In the prologue of "Pack of Two, two sentences, non concurrent, now apply to me.

I am sleeping with a dog.

I have fallen in love with my dog.

We adopted Liam 1/1/08.  New Year's Day.  Before that day, I was not a "dog person."  I never owned a dog, or spent much time around dogs.
Oh,  I listened to the dog stories, received the doggie Holiday cards, and watched the Westminster Dog show. I had little understanding of this dog world.  Dog people allow their dogs to sit on the furniture, they kiss their dogs, they talk to them and some pretend to be their dogs talking back to them.
I veered away when encountering a dog and owner on a walk. When visiting friends with dogs I tolerated their dog's attention (barely)
SEARCHING FOR THAT SQUIRREL
After Liam joined our family, the world  was a different place. Now there were three of us.  I understand it all now.
I send Holiday cards with Liam's picture signed from all three of us.  Liam also receives his own cards.
I talk to Liam and pretend I am talking as Liam.
We call ourselves Mom and Dad.
Liam reads with me.
He sits on any and every piece of furniture.
LIAM PERUSING "JUST KIDS"



HIS CHAIR

HIS COUCH
Liam sleeps with Paul in the winter and me in the summer.
I am drawn to anyone who is walking a dog.  I love visiting homes with dogs.
OUTSIDE TOY
I am mesmerized by his play.  By his joy, in a toy. I have taken hundreds of pix.
 TOY MID AIR
WILD EYED PLAY

I am now a dog person. I get it.

In describing the connection that occurs in the moments upon returning home to her dog Lucille, Caroline Knapp says:

"I have had Lucille for close to three years, but moments like that, my heart fills in a way that still strikes me with its novelty and power.  The colors come into sharp focus: attached, connected, joyful, us.  I adore this dog, without apology.  She has changed my life."
I can say the same with a pronoun changed to "he" and a name changed to "Liam."
ON MY  WAY OUT ON GO RED FOR WOMEN DAY 2/4/11
Happy Valentine's Day Liam.
 
Woof, Woof