Thursday, February 28, 2013

BadDream Girl

GOOD DREAM DOG
Bad dreams are generally classified as nightmares. They are labeled unpleasant dreams in the wiki definition following -an interesting compilation here
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nightmare
What are the causes of bad dreams? Well just about everything from unresolved past and present conflicts and anxieties ...triggers might be people, places, coffee, food, wine, movies, music, sleep apnea, restless leg, medication, almost anything except dogs. Nightmare is a word we throw around to describe anything really terrible "What a nightmare!" That would be a not so fun happening. I can say this every morning as I have bad unpleasant/dreams/nightmares EVERY night. I decided that this year I would fix this. Each January since retirement I have decided to fix something in me that is broken. I figure in retirement I have more time to devote to big broken things. I started in January 2008- the first month of my retirement. My first fixer was to adopt a rescue dog on 1/1/08. Liam fixed me in many ways. He has his dreams also, some seem bad...as he shakes and shows his own restless legs, probably unsuccessful squirrel chasing. I put him in a thundershirt to calm him.
In 2009, I decided to wean myself from paxil (anti-anxiety drug) It took about 2 months. Last year was the year of the "no"- I had to simplify my life. I was extremely over-scheduled. I fixed the year as it went ...no, no no..."no, I won't be back" No, I will not be available... extricating myself from classes, activities and unnecessary commitments. In 2013 I now have the year of the nightmare fix. March 1 is here and how am I doing? I seem to be having more nightmares or maybe I am remembering better. I have tried most suggested solutions-therapy (years) dream catchers (several) turkey before bed (Liam got that sandwich and fell asleep) recording and analyzing (I am on my second journal)
this link offers more dream info
http://www.dreammoods.com/dreaminformation/dreamtypes/recurringdreams2.htm
My nightmares are about being left out, not having the right tool to do the job I am assigned, having my place of work move without notifying me (I still work in my nightmares) not having proper clothes for an assigned task or event, being held captive and trying to escape to find where everyone has gone. Usually all in one bad dream. I know of the universal "bridge" dream, the "late for the test" dream, the "naked" at the meeting dream. Not to diminish their impact but I would love to have a few of those. As I am writing this song is in my head-
So tomorrow is March first, and historically I have made progress on my yearly fix at this point. Not with the "year of the nightmare." If I could "win" more times in my dreams I would consider it an achievement even if I still had the nightmares. I have not really put my mind to a pre-sleep mantra of dream mindfulness. So I will. 

Would like to go back to going to sleep and expecting pleasant dreams as in this childhood photo
CAROL IN CRIB




some fixes are what Liam does- A buddy to cuddle with, a blanket, a pillow
Tonight I resolve to rewrite the script of my nightmare. Or be a winner in it
READY FOR WINNING
Woof, Woof